This column originally appeared in The Sun Chronicle on Monday, November 24, 2014.
AN INSIDE LOOK
By Bill Gouveia
This
Thursday is Thanksgiving Day, that uniquely American holiday where each year we
all pretend to remember how thankful we are for the things we will go back to
ignoring before Christmas.
It
is my favorite holiday, and not just because it is always on a Thursday, thus
providing an extra-long weekend.
Thanksgiving appeals to me because it is a day spent in actual
celebration of nothing except a spirit of grateful reflection.
That spirit
is not based upon your religion, your ethnicity, your race, or your geographic
location. It’s merely a day where you
can count your blessings, regardless of where you think they may have come
from.
It
manages to encompass three of my very favorite things in this world: Food, football, and family (not necessarily
ranked in order of my own personal priority).
And this week, I will thoroughly and happily enjoy all three.
My
family will gather at the home of my sister-in-law and brother-in-law in Norton
to relax and shatter our diets. There
will be turkey and mashed potatoes, and we will argue about whether they should
have butter on them and how much seasoning should be applied to the various
meal components. The desserts will be
fabulous, as my wife and her sister renew their decades-old battle about who
makes the better apple pie.
It’s possible
the morning may begin with a trip to one of the local Thanksgiving Day high
school football games, depending on the weather and how early I drag myself up
out of bed. There will be football on
television, and I will be rooting for my fantasy league players to help me make
my league playoffs.
But best and
most important of all, there will be family.
We will be gathered together in numbers seldom realized anymore, as busy
lives and extended family obligations make our times together all that more
precious and few.
My two sons
and their families will both be there, along with many of their cousins and
other family members. And that means the
most important part of any holiday (or any day, for that matter) will also be
present – our three beautiful grandchildren.
Our oldest
grandchild Will (did I mention his name is William?) is now six years old and
in the first grade. Our amazing
granddaughter Avery will be visiting and she is wise far beyond her 2-1/2
years. And at 15 months baby Sam (we
won’t be able to call him that much longer) will be mobile for the first time
during a major family holiday. We are
nailing down the furniture.
I have gone
through most of the stages of family Thanksgivings now. I remember the excitement as a child, waiting
to see all the relatives I rarely got to visit.
The smell of my mother’s cooking, going to Mansfield-Foxboro football
games with my grandfather, and then being bored as the old people sat around
having beverages and talking about family stuff for the umpteenth time.
Then there
was the second stage, bringing my own children to such celebrations. The hassle of getting them out of the house,
keeping an eye on them, and trying to get them home at a decent hour. We always did two dinners every holiday, one
with each family, and continually threatened to end that practice (though
thankfully we never did).
And now there
is the third stage – where we ARE the old people sitting around telling the
same old stories and laughing just as hard as we did years ago. Now we chase the grandkids around, give them
sweets behind their parent’s backs, and marvel in the pure love and joy they
manage to provide and inspire in us.
Many of the
people who were integral parts of our holidays and lives for so long are now
gone. It is somewhat frightening and yet
at the same time reassuring to know our kids and their kids will look back at
us someday the same way we recall our parents and grandparents now. At least, we hope they will.
So count the
Gouveia family grateful this year. And
to my good readers, I wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving and all the food,
football and family you can handle.
Bill Gouveia is a local columnist and
longtime area town official. He can be
emailed at aninsidelook@aol.com and followed on Twitter at
@Billinsidelook.